Ugh, what a way to start the day. Honestly though, I needed it. I had held it in all day yesterday convincing myself I would be okay this month (yes it’s that time, almost) and I would not have my usual meltdown.
Wrong.
Here’s what’s hard in our situation. We have very limited time together. We go to our FT jobs, drive home together, get ready and go to our PT jobs (together) and return home around 8:30ish. By that time, we’re famished, we cook, clean up & about then it’s after 9 so we do a few things and get ready for bed. This is a Monday-Thursday routine, and it sucks. But unfortunately we need the part time jobs financially. Sundays she dedicates to schoolwork and some in between, so as you see, there is very little US time. We hate it.
Yesterday was an interrogation day. I have ongoing emails from 2 weeks ago with pending questions that I’ve been waiting for responses on. I reminded her yesterday about them, as I know last week she didn’t have much time. So throughout the day, best she could, she answered my emails. Well, you all know how our minds work, with every response I came up with more questions. So now we have about 3 ongoing emails with pending questions that she couldn’t get to yesterday. Last night was a busy night (and not a good one, just quiet and she felt ill) so nothing was talked about. We went to bed on a blah note which in turn left me feeling restless and blah this morning.
When I woke I started explaining how her lack of compassion face to face on bad days is really not doing me any good. She can say all kinds of sweet, remorseful things in an email but times when I need to hear them the most, she shuts down, pulls away, gets quiet. As I’m trying to explain what I need from her, the waterfall begins and I find myself sobbing through my words of telling her how much I hate this & how I’m so tired of feeling this way.
The release was good, I needed it but now I’m even more exhausted. And as I sit here in my drab cubicle for another 7.5 hours stewing, I wait. I wait for her responses. Is she going to get to them? Is this going to go on all day? I just want to get through them and be done with them! They’ve been dragging on for almost 3 weeks and I just want answers so I can try to move forward a little more. I know talking it out is a good thing, but seems we don’t have the time on “bad” days and don’t want to ruin “good” days with talking about it so it gets ignored until the next meltdown occurs.
Please tell me these end some day….soon. I’m just so sick of it. Sick of it all.